• Wes

Lonely vs. Alone

Updated: Dec 6, 2018



We all know the feeling of loneliness. However, people who are not single may not understand just how painful your loneliness can feel. Truth be told, nobody knows how hard your situation is but you and God. However, I want to challenge you to differentiate between being lonely and being alone.


There’s a huge difference.


If you have received Christ, the Bible promises that you are never alone.


One of the last things Jesus said to His disciples before He ascended to heaven is found in Matthew 28:20: “And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”


“With you always” means that there’s never a time where you are alone.


That doesn’t mean you will never feel lonely. My wife often remarks about how hard her Friday nights were when she was single. If she was busy and had things to do, it was fine. But when there were no plans for the weekend the feelings of loneliness would kick in.


Can I encourage you? You are never alone, and you don’t have to feel lonely.


What I mean is, Jesus doesn’t just want you to not be alone, he doesn’t want you to feel lonely.

Jesus wants to fill every empty place in our lives—including our loneliness.


How do I know that?


Ephesians 1:23 says that Jesus’ fullness “fills all in all.” In other words, if there’s a place of emptiness in your life, Jesus wants to fill it.


Additionally, Jesus Himself tells us that He wants to be our friend.


“I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master's business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you.” John 15:15


This means that Jesus isn’t with us in a Master/servant way but in a best friends kind of way. He can be your Friend, your Companion, and yes, your Husband (Isaiah 54:5, John 3:29, Revelation 19:7-9).


So don’t view alone time as being alone but as time to cultivate the most fulfilling and enduring relationship you will ever have, your relationship with Jesus. As you do, you’ll discover that you not only will never have to be alone, but you never have to be lonely again.



Wes Raley

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